Let’s face it; everybody knows that we, as humans, are emotional creatures. I don’t mean, 90% emotional and 10% logical, I mean 100% emotional. Everything we do is based on some kind of emotion. There are two main categories of emotions: desire and fear.

Most of what you do (or don’t do) is based on one of these two emotions. The more you desire (or fear) something, the more likely you are to attract it into your life. A thought without an emotion, has no power. We need to learn to focus our emotions on positive thoughts and push the negative aside, so they don’t control us.

If we want to own our lives, we have to learn to control our thoughts and emotions. Let’s put it this way, if every negative thought cost you $100 dollars and every positive thought paid you $100 dollars, would you be in the red or black? Let’s pretend that we start each day with $1000. At the end of the day, what would be in your “emotional bank account”?

Here’s an exercise that you can to do everyday to help you gain control. Picture yourself standing in front of two doors.  One is your secret place: a place where you are safe from all harm. There are only positive thoughts allowed here. The other is dark and dreary, cold and makes you feel inferior.

PICTURE THIS: YOU STAND IN FRONT OF THE TWO DOORS …..WHICH ONE WILL YOU CHOOSE??

In the deep dark corners of your mind and heart, there is a room. It is a happy room; one where all your good memories are stored.  Your Personal achievements and accomplishments are there. It’s where you have received honor and glory and you are appreciated and loved. You are important here.

This room is warm and bright and the sun shines through the open windows as it warms your face and radiates the entire room. The walls are painted yellow with pink and purple flowers and have great things written on them about you. It says, “YOU ARE HONEST, INTELLIGENT, LOVED, APPRECIATED, PRETTY, HELPFUL, STRONG, NEEDED, WANTED, CONFIDENT “ etc. There are children playing and people laughing. Your friends are here and it smells of fragrant flowers and apple pie. Your favorite music is playing softly in the background. You are at peace here.

You are comfortable here. But soon your emotions take over and lead you down the corridor to another room.

The other room is dark, dreary, damp and cold. This room is filled with your weaknesses, failures, bad habits, fears, doubts and poor decisions you have made throughout your life. It is filled with the negativity you received as a child from mostly “well Meaning” adults who engraved hard hateful words into your mind such as “You are no good, a loser, stupid, ugly, can’t do anything right, never amount to anything, a failure.”

This room smells of mildew and stale air, it is cold and dreary. You hear voices coming from the walls, calling out to you: You can’t do it, just give up, you never finish anything, you are such a failure, you will never have anything, you can’t earn any money doing that, you are wasting your time….blah …..blah… blah….

If you stay in this room long enough, you get depressed. There is no love here, only bitterness and guilt and shame. You must decide and determine to stop running to this room and lingering there after every frustrating event in your life. It does you no good and only drains the joy and love from you like a debilitating disease.

It is time to “Own Your Life”. It’s time to start thinking differently. The only reason you need to go into that room now is to write, “I FORGIVE YOU” in huge red letters across the walls. Then close the door and lock it and put the key in your pocket. Now you have control over that room and NOBODY can make you go in there again.

Move back to the happy room, settle in there and make it your home. Choose to meditate here daily on the positives. Then you will discover talents and abilities you never knew you had. You will be able to see the good in others as you help them overcome their fears and frustrations and you will become the person that God intended you to be.

Everyday, several times a day, visualize yourself in this room and this scenario and when you need extra strength or energy, you can go here in your mind and allow yourself to breath deeply and center yourself in this secret room as you gain control over your emotions and thoughts and revitalize yourself. Smell the fresh garden of fragrant flowers that make you feel peaceful and calm. Its your place to go whenever you need to now. Use it and enjoy it as you grow and learn to love life and help others do the same.

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Shelly Bishop